Powerofwordsandwisdom's Blog

In the beginning, if you can remember that far back or even if the beginning was just a week ago, relationships can be so fresh and new and fun and full of laughter and endless blushing and giggles but then something happens and all that comes to a crashing end.  Funny how in just a short time you get accustomed to each other and then what?  Boredom sets in?  Is boredom the right word here anyway?  Conversations no longer wordy but now filled with silence and pauses and throat clearing.  So…………………….
 
Is getting used to someone really a bad thing?  Why can’t there be constant fun times?  They say life is short but isn’t this true for love?  Can love be so short lived that being taken for granted is a sure thing?  Can you foresee love ending just before it’s actually begun?  Does love take flight only to take a nose dive into a draught of emotion?  Why should the emptiness and “blah” feelings exist between two people and who’s to say that this “blahness” is an accurate description?  Growing together shouldn’t lessen the love these people have for each other, if indeed, love is what it is.
 
Growing apart happens.  But if both people claim to want the same things in a relationship, and if both people share the same needs, then what is so difficult in keeping the ties that bind the relationship together in the first place?  Is it that most don’t want to apply the energy to maintain the relationship?  It took some ounce of energy to create it, but is keeping it going and on track that much more of an effort? 
 
Once the excitement of a relationship passes, do people go on to accept that maybe there is nothing left to explore?  Do people just accept that the flames of love have been doused and nothing can ignite them again?  Do people blame lack of time or even lack of interest in their otherwise busy day-to-day schedule to search or create more for themselves?  Or do we just accept that “this is the way it is”?  I don’t know about anybody else, but I can’t just accept being short-changed in any way by anyone. 
 
Knowing what you’re looking for, what you’re willing to work for, what you’re willing to give, what you’re willing to accept and what you’re willing to let go of when necessary should take MORE than just strength.   Don’t allow yourself to get too comfortable.  Don’t allow yourself to be taken for granted or take for granted that those around you will always know exactly how you feel.  Don’t make anyone a priority when all they make you is an option.  Say what you mean to those who mean the most to you when and as often as you can.  Cherish the moments that count and cast all doubt aside for a better relationship with those who matter.